While some women are obsessed with the idea of receiving a massive diamond on their engagement ring, not all feel the same way. Ariel Desiree McRae is in the latter category, believing it’s the thought behind the ring that matters most. So, when a rude Pandora employee tried to shame the couple for their ring choice, McRae’s reaction was perfect.
McRae and her now-husband headed to a Pandora store to purchase an engagement ring. A female employee at the Pandora store did not approve of the ring the couple wanted to buy and, according to a report by Bored Panda, shamed the pair, calling the $130 ring they intended to purchase “pathetic.”
While McRae was hurt by what the Pandora employee said, she did not want to make a scene in the store. Instead, when she made it back home, she wrote a Facebook post outlining everything about the situation that was just wrong.
Her message when viral.
“My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us does,” said McRae in the Facebook post. “We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore, so we didn’t.”
“I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend,” she continued, “but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.”
“While we were purchasing my rings, however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us,” McRae wrote.
“She said, ‘Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.’ When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again ‘Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?’”
“He was so upset at the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough,” she continued.
“Old Ariel would have ripped that woman a new one. Mature Ariel said, ‘It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that matters,” said McRae. “We bought the rings and left.”
“Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring,” she asserted. “When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with a said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love?”
“My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry,” said McRae. “He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.”
“But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.”