More and more parents are looking for meaningful ways to communicate to their kids that actions have consequences. This lesson is one that will surely make an impact. After a 10-year-old was kicked off the bus for bullying one of her peers, her father decided it was time for a punishment that would truly make an impression on his daughter.
As this was the second time that the girl had been removed from her bus, the father decided she could walk home. It was 36 degrees in Ohio at the time.
Matt Cox of Swanton noted that his daughter had been suspended from riding the bus on Friday, and that he would have to drive her to and from school for a whole week.
“I realized she viewed the privilege of riding the bus and or car rides to and from school as a right and not a privilege,” Cox told reporters.
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Instead of driving her, Cox drove behind her as she walked the five miles to school.
After, he talked with her about the punishment and ensured that she understood what was happening.
“I know a lot of you parents are not going to agree with this and that’s alright,” Cox said in the video.
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“I am doing what I think is right to teach my daughter a lesson to stop her from bullying.”
“Parents need to hold their kids accountable. That was me showing how I hold my kid accountable.”
“I’m not going to be another parent that’s just going to brush things under the rug and say kids will be kids.”
If people start here or sooner, is that the secret to ending WARS? https://t.co/d4Ck2AuBhx
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After posting the video to Facebook, his message went viral. The question now, and after each of these, is this: are we simply a nation of voyeurs who like watching bullies, even 10-year-old girls, get their comeuppance, or is there something more we can take away?
Cox’s video went viral becasue of the severity of his punishment. Many of us sit back and cheer, yet how many will follow in Cox’s footsteps and sacrifice our own time and risk the judgement of everyone to make our kids’ punishments fit their crimes?
Cox hopes so. “I was in complete shock that so many people responded when I originally posted it. I just thought friends and family would see it, and then a friend asked me to make it public so that they could share it,” Cox said. “By the time I woke up the next day I had hundreds of messages in my inbox and saw that there were quite a few views.”
And he doesn’t understand why his daughter is a bully.
“She, along with my other two children, seem to show a great deal of empathy towards some of the sad stories that I read with them,” Cox said.
This still pisses me off. This dad is a huge pustule. Fuck him. I mean seriously. Where is the mom?https://t.co/DsFXJM3RSn
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“I just hope that through the video being shared kids can take a look and read some of the comments and tutorials on the post and see just how much words can hurt and cut deep and can have lasting effects on those involved sometimes in the most awful cases life-ending effects,” Cox added.
“I also hope that parents see the video and start holding their kids accountable for their actions and stop sweeping their child’s actions under the rug with the ideology that kids will be kids. We as parents need to stop the bullying on the home front because bullying only breeds bullying.”