Bailey Jean Matheson was diagnosed with Leiomyosarcoma, a form of terminal cancer, in 2017. After trying radiation treatment, Matheson opted to forgo chemotherapy as she felt the side effects outweighed the little time she had left. Knowing she had few options, Matheson decided to enjoy her last days and to pen her own heartfelt obituary.
Matheson, who was from Halifax, Canada, knew she was going to die within two years of her shocking diagnosis. Instead of letting chemotherapy ravage her body, Matheson wanted to live the rest of her time with friends living a semi-normal life.
Days before her death, Matheson penned her obituary and published it in the Chronicle Herald. Matheson acknowledged that she knew deciding to skip chemotherapy would be hard on her parents as she was an only child. “I know how hard that must have been watching me stop treatment and letting nature take its course. I love you both even more for this,” she wrote.
Here is her Bailey’s, self-written obituary in it’s entirety:
’35 years may not seem long, but damn it was good!’
To my parents, thank you for supporting me and my decisions throughout my life. I always remember my mom saying losing a child would be the hardest loss a parent could go through.
My parents gave me the greatest gift of supporting my decisions with not going through chemo and just letting me live the rest of my life the way I believed it should be.
I know how hard that must have been watching me stop treatment and letting nature take its course.
I love you both even more for this. To my friends, being an only child I’ve always cherished my friendships more than anything because I’ve never had siblings of my own.
I never thought I could love my friends more than I did but going through this and having your unconditional love and support you have made something that is normally so hard, more bearable and peaceful.
Thank you and I love you all so much.
To my Brent, you came into my life just three months before my diagnosis.
You had no idea what you were getting yourself into when you swiped right that day.
I couldn’t have asked for a better man to be by my side for all the adventures, appointments, laughs, cries and breakdowns.
You are an amazing person and anyone in your life is so fortunate to know you.
I love you beyond words. I am survived by my loving parents, Wendy (Foxwell) and Sandy (John Alexander) Matheson; my amazing and caring boyfriend, Brent Andrews and family; my wonderful pets, Rosella, Cat, Peyton (Boo Boo) and Harley; my great group of friends; my Aunt Sharon MacIntyre and family; my Aunt Paulette Novacco and family, and my Uncle Ted Foxwell and family.
I was predeceased by my maternal grandmother, Lillian Clark; paternal grandparents, Elsie (Matheson) MacKenzie and Alex Matheson. Thank you for all the support, donations, fundraisers, food, messages and calls over the past two years. It means the world to me.
A special thank you to my aunts, Sharon and Paulette, for being supportive and thank you to all my doctors, my palliative care team, all my VONs, my social worker, and East Coast Naturolpathic.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Melanies Way or Young Adults Cancer Canada. Details regarding the Celebration of Life will follow at a later date.
‘Don’t take the small stuff so seriously and live a little.’